I need advice about my off and on relationship?

Why do I torture myself with a relationship that is an emotional rollercoaster?





We are constantly breaking up and hurting each other and then getting back together.





We are obviously madly in love because we can't just let each other go.





But I feel like over the last few months my heart has just slowly been letting go. And he has his guard up and with my heart not being fully into it and with him guarding his heart...





How can we make it work?





How do we get the spark back in our relationship and how can we forget everything we've been through and move on?I need advice about my off and on relationship?
You both need to sit down and figure out what you are doing wrong. Obviously what causes most relationship strain is not understanding each other.....this takes time and it depends solely on how long you have been together...if its been so long, the chances of you both still figuring each other out are slim...possible but slim. There's still something btw you too which is why either of you cant let go.





How do you figure out what you are doing wrong?





well ...you sit him down and ask him ..what he wants from this relationship and let him ask you whatever is mind boggling him with the relationship as well..and you two start doing those things ...its a good start





Breakin up is not an option ..it makes matters worse especially if there are still some mutual feelings.....hope that helps. Take things one at a timeI need advice about my off and on relationship?
Have you considered a distinguished older gentleman with a good job and an excellent credit rating?





Okay - just kidding, but I think you've had enough of my advice! Don't want to use that word ';toxic'; again.