Why do people post a question for advice about their horrible relationship then?

two seconds later you see them giving advice to someone else? Might be a silly question but its true:)Why do people post a question for advice about their horrible relationship then?
LOL well I have to answer so I have enough points to ask my questions!





Also, I can give advice. Just because my relationship eventually ended after 2 years doesn't mean I don't know about working through problems or dating etiquette, or can tell who's a bad person and who isn't. 2 years was pretty successful and we knew when to call it a day and even though I'm upset I learnt a lot. Most notably, I learnt what I would and wouldn't find acceptable. When I see questions from people and they are still in a relationship that is 10 times worse than my one that ended, I have a pretty good perspective on what to tell them!





It's easy to give clear advice when you have an outsider's perspective and more or less impartial view of the situation.Why do people post a question for advice about their horrible relationship then?
Maybe because they have life experience , and they share, do you think that if you need advice at some point in your life then you have nothing to give anymore? Sometimes when you are in a situation it is hard to stand back and judge without a bias, but looking at someone else's problem you are able to advise. From your question I guess you think that if you have a relationship problem then you are somehow a failiure at relationships full stop, it just isn't like that, people can get into situations that are not their fault.


people help each other when needed, no matter what their circumstances. Thats where the phrase 'give and take' applies , most kids learn it.
Well, I do this, and feel totally justified!





Just because I ask for advice on my idiot ex, does not mean that I have no right to try and help others. In fact, my experiences with my ex (since Feb 2009) have taught me so much, that I now answer on this section every day, and have a good reputation/lots of points/best answers.





You should be more concerned about people who have no idea about the very issues on which they are advising! It may be well-intended but you get a lot of teenagers replying to marriage questions, saying things like ';oh well IDK'; (which I assume means ';I don't know'; in teen-speak).





Most of the top contributors in marriage and divorce often state they have gone through being cheated on, and horrible divorces, should they stop answering then?
Because when u are in a relationship its difficult to see the obvious maybe judgement is clouded cos u are madly in love.


What maybe obvious to an outsider is something someone in a relationship just can't see.


Sometimes u are genuinely confused between ur heart and brain and advice helps.


Sometimes u know what u are doing is bad for u but you'll ask a question to get sympathy or the strength to do the right thing.


I must admit I am gully of asking relationship advice on yahoo answers - i am CLUELESS about what i should do. But i like giving advice as I've learnt lots of things the hard way.
I find that interesting as well. If your relationship sucks and you are asking how to fix it or what to do, then how can you give someone else advice on their own realtionship that sucks? It's like Stevie Wonder trying to help Ray Charles (if he was alive) get across a busy highway.
Because sometimes, it's easier to ask a complete stanger, who is byass on the situation.....thre may be children involved, and they want to save tier relationship. Perhaps they could try counceling.
I agree with Marcia. Things are a lot clearer from an outsiders perspective. Plus...just because someone is having problems with certain types of relational issues doesn't mean they don't have good advice for others going through something else.
because they are asking for help in their situation. That does not mean they cant give advice to someone else. Thats how it works, people try to answer each others questions.
Because that is the way it is done.
uuff people. i call it ';cyper issues';.