Please I need advice about some problems with the income at home because my husband has a big problem spending?

My husband spend too much, what can I do? Sometimes we don't have money for food or something, and he can spend hundreds for his bike, is there anything I can do to prevent this problem, this has been for long time, and because I was paying too much attention to my children, work and home, I lost the focus on him, now the problem is really big, sometimes I think we will loose the house, this year he lost two cars, because of lack of payments, please somebody help me!Please I need advice about some problems with the income at home because my husband has a big problem spending?
Change whatever you can to your name only so he won't keep blowing your money whether it's credit cards, checking account, etc.Please I need advice about some problems with the income at home because my husband has a big problem spending?
he sounds like the child, not the kids. i can understand how some people who lose their jobs or can't find a job that paid as well can lose a house, but it sounds like your husband is just asking for trouble. i'd tell you to get a divorce from him, but what good is that going to do you? you need to take all his money and give him an allowance, just like the child he is acting like.


that or start looking for a sugar daddy.
DIVORCE COURT........
can you spell bankruptcy?
Why do people fall into addictions of any kind?


Because they are missing something in their life. For men, it is usually affirmation of their masculinity. Are they ';good';? Does the man get respect in all things? This does not say that he deserves respect. Does he get respect? This is the key thing in almost every man's life - R E S P E C T !


When he spends on himself, he feels important. And this lasts until he gets the stuff home. Then the lie of the addiction takes over and he has to spend again to get that ';high';. Good luck. It's not about spending. It's about his addiction to mask the pain that he's trying to cover. He needs to find resolution about the underlying pain in his life and the addiction will go away.


This is why so many people go into addiction programs to be cured of their addiction (spending) to only move into another addiction like alcohol, drugs, gambling, sex, work or any number of other things to cover the root cause - pain.





My wife was the same way. She would bring home bags of stuff running up credit cards to the max. We had crap piled up where she would hide the merchandise. Closets were filled. Under the beds. She would look at the stuff a month later and wonder why she ever bought it and she would return it. And get more!


It was when I finally had enough of this and cut up the cards, closed out the checking accounts and put a hold on all the waste that was destroying our very lives. She would not listen to anything I said for she WOULD NOT GO TO THE PAIN and we ended up in divorce. She would not be controlled. We had a 5 bedroom home in the country with all the wonderful things that life could offer. She is now living in someone's basement working a part-time job with tons of debt and blaming me for all her woes.


Good luck. You're in for the ride of your life.

bumble and bumble